Before you jump into your work week, here's a quick reminder from Ashley Virtue to focus on the present versus "what could have been".
- so we all know that sometimes when bad things happen they seem to happen all at once we all have those bad days where we're late for work we forgot to go to the grocery store or we just you know don't have things go our way so during days like these we can get so frustrated that things aren't going well or how we expected that we don't react to others in a way that's best for them or really for us so it's really important to keep in mind when you are having a day like this that you might take it out on someone who doesn't deserve it it can be helpful to have a few lines maybe prepared on bad days that just let you express that you just need a little time before you're able to have a productive discussion with someone this kind of gives you the time you need to cool down and avoid causing any damage to your relationships just because you're having a bad day
We all have those days when things just don't seem to be working out for us. Keep in mind to not take out your bad day out on someone else. Take a moment to cool down, and come back to the conversation once you're ready.
Put all your thoughts on the table. In conversation, many don't express what they feel. This action cannot only create a barrier for effective communication, but it can ruin a healthy relationship. Catch yourself, and say whats on your mind. It may be frightening, but clear communication is healthy communication. In and around organizations, lots of people interact for lots of time. At the National Conflict Resolution Center, we've worked with thousands of individuals across the globe to help resolve conflicts at all levels of society, through our unique and effective training programs.
Even in certain situations, those closest to you can react in a surprising way when in high-stress situations. During conflict, you're more than likely seeing them at their worst. Understanding emotions is a fundamental part of managing conflict effectively. In and around organizations, lots of people interact for lots of time. Yet few organizations devote resources to proactively managing conflict.
Why is it so hard for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say, sometimes? In today's #MindsetMonday video, Ashley Virtue explains why most people appreciate a clear explanation, even if the response is not what they had in mind.
- effective communication is clear communication as much as possible when you're communicating with someone try not to sugarcoat what you mean avoid using phrases like mal try or no we'll have to see that kind of demonstrates a lack of commitment to the overall goal it's really okay to say noticing Xand people generally appreciate having clear expectations even if it's not the answer they ideally wanted
In conversations, were eager to get our point across to the other person. Sometimes, we have a tendency to raise our tone of voice, causing the other person to raise their voice as well. Here's how to catch yourself and have a healthy conversation. At the National Conflict Resolution Center - NCRC, we've worked with thousands of individuals across the globe to help resolve conflicts at all levels of society, through our unique and effective training programs.
- If you're anything like me when you're in conflict with someone your emotions run high you might be listening to logic that you don't agree with or you hear someone say something that's just completely wrong you can't wait to get your own point across to put your feelings forward and make sure your voice is heard well when we're making sure our voice is heard oftentimes we raise our voices without even thinking the person we're arguing with starts to raise their voices and we're raising our voices and before you know it it can be an all-out screaming match it's a very simple piece of advice but just making sure to be aware of how loud you're speaking to someone can completely change the nature of an interaction when you're disagreeing so make sure to note what you feel when you typically start raising your voice and just make sure to be aware when you feel that way again so that you can keep your volume down honestly you'll be able to hear better and when you can hear better you'll be able to address the situation better
When two or more people interact for a long enough time, conflict happens. It’s inevitable. In and around organizations, lots of people interact for lots of time. Yet few organizations devote resources to proactively managing conflict. At the National Conflict Resolution Center, we've worked with thousands of individuals across the globe to help resolve conflicts at all levels of society, through our unique and effective training programs.
"Never take a person's dignity: It's worth everything to them, and nothing to you,"" - Frank Barron Preserving one's dignity is the implied meaning in the expression, "to save face." In conflict resolution, mediators look for ways to allow parties to save face or rebuild their image in order to resolve a dispute. In today's Mindset Monday video, Ashley Virtue shares why treating others with dignity and respect is not only the right thing to do—it's also the smart thing to do.
- It's important that when you're approaching someone that you may have a conflict with or that you have to have a difficult conversation with that you think about ways ahead of time to give them an out so that they can save face during the conversation. A couple of suggestions that might help you do this would be, approaching them at the beginning and saying there's something that I think you might not be aware of and I want to talk to you about it so that you're not accusing them of anything. Also making sure that you talk to them about things in a private space so that they don't feel like others are involved and they have to save face in front of them whenever you're going into a conversation with someone where emotions may be escalated or defense mechanisms may go up. Be thinking ahead of time about how to strategically help them save face that way they'll be able to approach you more genuinely and honestly to troubleshoot.
Giving someone constructive feedback can be a little tricky. In today's Mindset Monday video, Ashley Virtue shares a few tips on how you can make the conversation less awkward and more productive.
Paul Bowers reminds us all that it's easy to turn an aquarium into fish stew versus the other way around. Social media is very easy to destroy and disruptive. Bowers reminds us all to be mindful of how we treat each other online.